THE WEEK
Work: This week, nothing really got done with the actual project I am supposed to be doing, so I am just hanging out. I have finished most of the things from home that we imminent to get done and I have finally submitted my paper for publication!! SUBMITED!! Yay! But now, there is nothing really to work on…In addition, the week-end here is Friday and Saturday, which makes the work week Sunday – Thursday. With the time difference in the States, it basically means that there are only three overlapping days in which to communicate with most people about work stuff, making it infinitely harder to find things to do...It has, however, given me a chance to catch up on my reading. I can now read multiple papers in the morning and I’ve finished four novels in the past week: The Thirteenth Tale, People of the Book, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept, and Eat, Prey Love. I definitely like the free time, to an extent, but I know soon, if not already, I am aching for something to make myself productive.
Food: We’ve gotten better at grocery shopping, but the apartment I am staying in is not outfitted with all the essential tools and pantry-basics needed to make a proper meal. I didn’t think I would be here for this long, so I didn’t bother buying these things. Also, to be social and meet people, we (my roommates, Alison and Evelyn, and I) have been eating out quite a bit – we’ve gone out for Indian twice, Thai, pasta, and ice cream. All pretty delicious, but I really am missing just making food for myself. I’m going to get on that this week!
The clubs: As I mentioned before, all the expats we’ve met have said it’s great to be a part of the “club scene,” so I went to check out the American club this week. Because I don’t have a membership care yet, I had to show my passport to three different people and be escorted by a security guard as I got shown around the premises. It seems nice – there is a pool, a playground, two tennis courts, a coffee shop, an a restaurant. Apparently there’s a gym, but I didn’t get around to finding that. To become a member, you need to get a diplomat to “sponsor” you – I asked how was I supposed to find a diplomat if I didn’t know any yet and the man responded, “I don’t care, but you need diplomat.” It seems a little excessive if I have a passport and a visa and a driver’s license, but oh well!.
I also went to a BBQ at the International Club – this place was definitely more open and friendly than the American club seemed. There were people from pretty much everywhere – Canada, the States, France, Belgium, Germany, and even Bangladesh. They had alcohol, which is pretty impressive here because the entire country is dry. Because the majority of the country is Muslim, they don’t sell alcohol at any of the stores and only a few restaurants will serve alcohol, but only to foreigners (we haven’t found any). The commissary, which only high commission and UN staff can get at, is filled with “illicit” substances – alcohol, pork products (bacon, hot dogs, slice ham, pepperoni), skittles, Kraft dinner, Oreos – all the things apparently high commission staff crave after being outside of their country for extended periods of time.
Other things: One thing that has totally made an impression on me this week is showering. Although I have finally figured out that we do have hot water (!!) I have become accustomed to the cold showers of the day, which provide a nice break from sweating in the 100˚F weather. It’s not uncommon to have three showers in a day depending whether I exercise or even just walk around the city. While I love the cooling effect of it though, it just doesn’t feel as clean as scalding hot water.
We also got invited to a wedding this week-end to the daughter of the man who lives upstairs! We felt a bit uncomfortable attending, although I don't think it would have been a big deal. We didn't have appropriate celebration clothes and figured there would be many more weddings throughout the year. However, because of the celebration, our entire apartment building has been decked out in Christmas lights all week - photos attached! It's absolutely gorgeous and I will be so sad when they are gone...
SATURDAY – THE NATIONAL DAY OF MOURNING
National Day of Mourning: We had a holiday on Sunday, so a three-day week-end! Saturday was the National Day of Mourning, for which we had an observation day on the Sunday. In 1975, Bangabandhu Sheikh Mujibur Rahman and most of his family members were assassinated by “Islamic radicalists.” Rahman is considered the Father of the Nation, leading Bangladesh to independence from Pakistan in 1971 and then becoming the first President of Bangladesh and then later the Prime Minister. Bangabandhu means "Friend of Bengal" At the time of the massacre, two of his daughters were visiting Germany and were therefore spared. One daughter, Sheikh Hasina went on to become the Prime Minister (and still is). [see: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sheikh_Mujibur_Rahman]. Apparently this is the first time in 8 years that the National Mourning Day has been observed, but I am not sure why. From what I gather, a recent political party re-instated its celebration, which would lead me to believe that a prior one thought not to.
We had planned to go shopping in Mirapur for the day, but one of the woman at work who was going to accompany us said there were many protests and it was not safe to go outside because of them. With the language barrier with this woman, it was difficult to determine why there were protests, but she did say that often tourists are more targeted in these instances to make a statement. We sat inside our house until about 4 when we decided that it was probably safe to go to the mall...Driving through the city, there were black flags and Bangladeshi flags everywhere to mark the day. We passed one gathering of young men and numerous posters of Bangabandhu’s face in the colors of Bangladesh (red and green) – kinda how the now-famous picture of Obama’s face in red, white, and blue. It was great to see how the city rallied to celebrate.
The Mall: The Bashandara mall that we ended up at was probably the biggest mall I’ve ever been in, not just because of the size, but the number of stores. It was 8 stories tall, with a movie theatre and a food court at the top. Each floor had 4 rows of stores and since the stores are so small with not really any displays, there were about 30 stores per row. It was intimidating.
We got some salwars to wear to work with the great bargaining skills of one of Evelyn’s colleagues and so now we can dress is as much style as we can muster. The tops are lovely and unfortunately the pants didn’t come with any ties, so we are at a loss until we can find them. For those of you who don’t know, the pants aren’t actually fitted, they are just large pants (kinda a one-size-fits-all) with a drawstring. Also something interesting I learned – apparently all the decorated salwars are made in India. I find it odd that they import most of the clothes since it seems like such a lucrative business to make them within the country.
We also hit up the DVD store – I have never seen so many pirated DVDs in one place. Most of the music collections seemed like they were in official cases, which I’m sure they weren’t, but all the DVDs were in Ziploc bags with photocopied covers. And they had everything - TV series, English moves, Bollywood movies, documentaries, made-for-TV-movies….I picked up a sufficient collection of Bollywood movies (15 for around 18 dollars). I’m sure I paid more than necessary, but, to me, it was an awesome deal. So now I think I’m decked out for my stay in the Bandarbans. (There is also Dollywood – the Hollywood of Dhaka, but I’ve heard the movies aren’t so good. Most of the men at the store who helped me and the colleague we were with said that most people only watch Bollywood movies!)
Our colleague from work brought her kids so all of us went to dinner in the food court and we had Indian food…see a trend? Pani puri, mango lassis, and channa and roti (as I saw it), which here is called Dohi Fuchka and Chole Bhatora….I’m not sure if these are Indian names I’m not aware of or Bangla names. Either way, the food was delicious and we left feeling extremely stuffed. Fauzia and her family treated us to an after-dinner digestive – pan. In India, I think pan is the red stuff people constantly chew and spit out on the side of the road, so I was a little apprehensive about trying it, but her daughter swore to me that it was delicious. It’s basically made of a bunch of spices (no one could tell me the names) wrapped in a betel nut leaf covered with silver foil. You put the entire triangle in your mouth and chew until your mouth is filled with the juices, which apparently aid in digestion. You’re not supposed to swallow the entire thing until all the juices are out, so as we wandered around the mall, we continued to chew for about 15 minutes.
On the way out of the mall, we were standing just outside the exit doors and Evelyn was showing us some earrings she bought. Soon, we were surrounded by about 8 people, who were just staring at us (the three of us and Fauzia’s three kids). I immediately thought it was because Evelyn’s earrings were gold in this tiny case and people wanted to look at the purchase. I must have made a face because Alison turned to me and said “Oh, this has happened before.” Now, I definitely don’t completely blend in with Bangladeshis, but I’ve never had people stare so awkwardly at me. I was suddenly so happy to not be a blond, white, American and I can’t imagine what she feels like walking through the streets on a daily basis. Also, we’ve just seen so many Americans or Aussies here already that I really didn’t think it was as big of a deal as it maybe was….
The Ride Home: As a group, we are pretty good at getting around Gulshan (the area where we live). However, we have found that once you go outside of the boundaries of the district, people really aren’t willing to drive you there – earlier in the week, Danny and I got caught at work because no one would drive us. After walking for about 40 minutes, we finally were close enough to convenience someone – who ended up getting pulled over by the cops…haha. Anyway, I was pretty confident that we could talk to the auto drivers to tell them where we wanted to go, give directions, and haggle about the price, but I was less confident that we could actually find one willing to drive us. The first one we did, we took and as we piled in, the three of us realize that it seemed to be smaller than all the others. We stuffed our packages in between us and Evelyn sat on our laps for the next 40-minute drive back. It was uncomfortable and stuffy, but we made it! And gave directions in Bangla and got a price that we all thought was pretty decent!
Bollywood Movies: I finally convinced my roommates to watch some Bollywood after our trek to the DVD stores. Khubi Kushi Khubi Guam had the most number of actors in it, so we settled on that. After getting over the shock of how long they are, I think I have found my new movie buddy in Alison, who has decided she is going to marry Shah Rukh Khan (Sara, you have some competition!). If we could learn the dance moves next, I would totally be set!
SUNDAY – THE DAY OF OBSERVATION FOR THE DAY OF MOURNING
New Market: Today, we decided to try a stab at New Market. We had all heard that its full of shops, bookstores, and jewelry – it seemed like the place to be! It took us about an hour and a half to get there in a cab, cost just a little under 10$ and was only ?? km away!
I have to say, I didn’t really like it – it was dirty (much dirtier than just like walking around on the street), there were soooo many people (made me claustrophobic), and we couldn’t find anything. I’m sure once you know what’s there, it would be easy to find everything, but we were definitely lost. Our faces must have shown it because all of a sudden, two men appeared out of nowhere and started telling us that they would take us to where we needed to go and were trying to get us to go with them. We told him nicely that we didn’t need any help, but of course, he continued to follow us…and talk to us, although we ignored him. Eventually we found some bookshops where we decided to browse and we separated into two-somes. Apparently the guy had been listening to us for quite a while and now knew all of our names and followed us saying them and answering questions – I was odd and kinda scary. I didn’t understand what he wanted from us or what his role was there – were we supposed to tip him for showing us around? I’m not sure, but Evelyn ended up telling him to get lost, which he then did.
The one thing I did like about the market was all the vibrant colors. The clothes here are just wonderfully gorgeous in their ornamentation and colors that it’s hard not to get mesmerized at all the people walking by you. And somehow, no matter who you are or what you look like, every woman wearing a sari looks like a princess. The women here mostly carry themselves with grace and elegance, which seems difficult to do walking through the massive crowds we ran into at this market.
Now, starts the beginning of a new week and hopefully some progress on this trip to the fieldsite!